I appreciate when judges talk to the parties at the end of the hearing. Today, following a hearing regarding disagreements about unilateral decision making and information sharing, the judge told the parties to ask themselves: Would you want to know? It is the perfect question for self-reflection in co-parenting. 

  • If a doctor needed to be selected for your child, would you want to have input?
  • If your children were traveling by airplane to a different state, would you want to have the flight, lodging and contact information?
  • If your child was going to be participating on a sports team, would you want information about cost and schedule?

It comes down to the golden rule – do unto others as you would have done unto you.